About the song
Released in 1963, “You Don’t Own Me” is more than just a catchy pop tune. It’s a cultural touchstone, a song that resonated deeply with a generation of young women yearning for empowerment. Sung by the doe-eyed teenager Lesley Gore, the song became an anthem for the burgeoning feminist movement.
Written by Philadelphia songwriters John Madara and David White, “You Don’t Own Me” throws a lyrical punch. The song’s protagonist refuses to be objectified or controlled by a possessive partner. She demands respect and equality, challenging the double standards that constrained women at the time. Lines like “Don’t tell me what to do, don’t tell me what to say” became a rallying cry for young women finding their voices.
Lesley Gore, at the tender age of 17, embodied the spirit of the song. Her youthful defiance and powerful vocals resonated with a generation. The song wasn’t just about romantic relationships; it was a broader statement about female agency. It challenged societal norms and emboldened women to assert their independence.
“You Don’t Own Me” wasn’t without controversy. Gore’s later recordings, with lyrics promoting traditional gender roles, were seen as a departure from the feminist message of “You Don’t Own Me.” This highlights the complexities of the era and the evolving conversation around feminism.
Despite later criticisms, the song’s impact remains undeniable. It reached number two on the Billboard Hot 100, and even today, it continues to inspire. In 2015, a cover by SayGrace featuring rapper G-Eazy topped the charts in Australia, proving the song’s message remains relevant across generations.
“You Don’t Own Me” is a timeless anthem. It’s a reminder that the fight for equality is a continuous journey. The song’s defiant spirit continues to empower women to challenge limitations and claim their rightful place in the world. So, the next time you hear this iconic song, remember Lesley Gore, the young woman who dared to sing “You Don’t Own Me,” a message that continues to resonate today.
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Lyrics
You don’t own me
I’m not just one of your many toys
You don’t own me
Don’t say I can’t go with other boys
And don’t tell me what to do
Don’t tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don’t put me on display ’cause
You don’t own me
Don’t try to change me in any way
You don’t own me
Don’t tie me down ’cause I’d never stay
I don’t tell you what to say
I don’t tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That’s all I ask of you
I’m young and I love to be young
I’m free and I love to be free
To live my life the way I want
To say and do whatever I please
And don’t tell me what to do
Oh, don’t tell me what to say
And please, when I go out with you
Don’t put me on display
I don’t tell you what to say
Oh, don’t tell you what to do
So just let me be myself
That’s all I ask of you
I’m young and I love to be young
I’m free and I love to be free